Your heart beats unnaturally fast, your brain freezes up, you might feel as if you’re going to wet your pants, you certainly want the feeling to go away.
Generally, it feels shit.
Yet we are told time and again to “feel the fear and do it anyway!”
( yes, I’ve read the book….)
Who else is sick of being told our fear is a prehistoric response to a sabre toothed tiger?
My fear is related to messing up, feeling a total idiot and probably not being able to cope with the situation I am in.
Yet time and again the Guru’s encourage us to face our fears.
Now, a genuine fear for your life is not what this post is about.
This post is about perceived fears – of being seen, of being heard for who we really are. Of stepping outside of the comfort zones and how we can overcome them.
These perceived fears are HUGE fears.
That why we all keep quite about the fact that we love the Bay City Rollers and are writing a book on the transexual life of aliens. That’s why we don’t tell people that we can see dead people, because they will judge us.
We are scared that people won’t like the genuine us.
But what if you no longer care if they do or don’t judge you?
Fearlessness according to Robin Sharma, is something we can learn, yet I’m not sure anyone can be fearless unless in an extreme situation. Its courage that we need.
Courage is the act of feeling the fear and doing it anyway. Making friends with our fear, saying I hear you to it, but we are going to do this anyway.
And this is tough. It takes practice to be courageous.
It takes practice to sit with the crappy feeling of fear. But sitting with it makes fear less scary.
I know it sounds weird, why deliberately feel crappy?
Try it though.
If you can, the next time you feel scared ( but obviously not in a life threatening situation) sit with that fear. Feel it all over your body, become if you can the detached observer of your body experiencing fear.
Notice how horrid it feels. Notice what your body is doing, how fast your heart is pumping, how you might feel sick, and see how long it lasts.
And then, see how you feel as the fear it slowly leaves, of its own accord. No need to shove it away, drink it away; just let it go.
This may take a few minutes, it may take a bit longer.
However, you might be pleasantly surprised with the results.
You will see the perceived fear as it really is. An emotion.
An emotion that is best allowed to move through your body, signalling that yes, doing this ‘thing’ is scary, but you are going to do it anyway.
And then the next time the fear knocks on the door? It tends to knock a little quieter.